Yep, all my friends will acknowledge I usually have way to much going on. I collect projects like most people collect spoons. I don't expect that to change anytime soon, it's just a part of my personality. I have to stay busy. (So yes, when it comes to my younger daughters ADHD I can totally see where she gets it. My husband also has some ADHD as well so I guess she gets it honestly from both of us.) When I see posts like This:
I think of us. We don't always have the most logical idea's (sort of like the "lets collect chickens" idea) but we usually like the outcome. Sometimes we look at the situation and just have to laugh at ourselves..It's a good thing to do. Many of us take life so seriously. Then we add in the stress of doing something really weird, like homeschooling, and we tend to take that way to seriously. We worry about schedules, classes, socialization, doing the right curriculum, missing that elusive "something" that we will find out only later when it's "too late". We worry we are to structured, to flexible, not flexible enough, not structured enough, not organized enough, that we are ADHD and won't be organized at all, that our kids will be left behind if we don't have the perfect curriculum or the "best" curriculum. We even try and structure "p.e." because it's not p.e. unless it's structured. (no, really. I see this all the time. people don't include things like bike riding with friends, swimming with friends, kayaking with friends, hiking with friends, etc. because it isn't structured and well it's "with friends")
People forget the value of things in everyday life.
Now add in this time of year...
And we start shopping for all our curriculum, supplies, essentials, school planners, and start feeling that somehow we are missing something. Should we send the kids to public school this year? Should this be the year we homeschool? Should we have a "gap" year? Are we moving to fast? to slow? Do I have enough "stuff"? All the questions, doubts, expectations makes your head spin..
When your a newbie it seems worse. You have people asking you if your nuts. You have people making you doubt yourself. You have people telling you to "do it" or "don't do it". Is it any wonder we think we are going crazy?
So every once it a while, you DO have to laugh at yourself, no matter what others think and learn to relax a little. learn to trust not only yourself but your children as well. Let them help you learn the best way they learn. Understand there IS no perfect currciulum, no perfect schedule, no perfect "way to get things done" It's only what works best for your family, at this point, right now. Relax and ENJOY your time together.
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